tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post304307874110325367..comments2023-09-27T04:20:27.106-04:00Comments on RaggedyMom: Ending My TenureRaggedyMomhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01022064984702182705noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-66470311026154183542007-06-28T20:27:00.000-04:002007-06-28T20:27:00.000-04:00I'm just glad that I'm not the one who has to go t...I'm just glad that I'm not the one who has to go through school over again myself! I had enough of the Queen Bee types back in those days. At least now I'm a grownup and have more confidence about doing my own thing or walking away.RaggedyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01022064984702182705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-2192323197703127242007-06-26T22:15:00.000-04:002007-06-26T22:15:00.000-04:00I've logged lots of years as class mom, and I feel...I've logged lots of years as class mom, and I feel your pain.<BR/><BR/>My favorite gift to give the teachers is a credit card from the local mall. It acts as a regular Mastercard or Visa in any store or on-line, really anywhere a credit card would be accepted, and costs $2.50 as a service charge. With that service charge, the mall gives a very nice gift bag and tissue paper, too. <BR/><BR/>This lets us give the equivalent of cash, but in a nicer form. There are Israeli teachers who don't have credit cards, and they have been particularly appreciative. <BR/><BR/>I also like to spend a couple of dollars (either from the group funds, or just supplemented quietly by the room parents) on flowers to present at the year-end performances. <BR/><BR/>You get double mitzvah credit for all the scars on the inside of your cheeks. Queen Bee Mom is never going to slap her forehead and say, "You know, you're right. I was very insensitive. I'll try to do better next time."Juggling Frogshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03572259373523756647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-11219675625500059542007-06-26T13:03:00.000-04:002007-06-26T13:03:00.000-04:00Ugh. Where is the woman's tact? (Don't answer th...Ugh. Where is the woman's tact? (Don't answer that.) Really, giving a huge stack of $1 bills is so...tacky. I agree with trilcat; when she goes to the bank, presumably she gets $20 bills, no? So what's the big deal? It's just so much more kavodik to the woman; just because money is tight doesn't mean she wants everyone to think she's a nebbach case.Scrapshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15911315552965685448noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-42656245506194792892007-06-26T11:35:00.000-04:002007-06-26T11:35:00.000-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Ariella's bloghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09409352047101582583noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-45577535739213063312007-06-26T09:18:00.000-04:002007-06-26T09:18:00.000-04:00In a group there is always bound to be a "Queen Be...In a group there is always bound to be a "Queen Bee Mom". UGH.<BR/><BR/>But look on the bright side, I just <A HREF="http://orieyenta.blogspot.com/2007/06/8-things.html" REL="nofollow">tagged</A> you. :)orieyentahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08196912567675213457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-58286931780140455482007-06-24T07:17:00.000-04:002007-06-24T07:17:00.000-04:00I can't stand school volunteer politics. Makes me...I can't stand school volunteer politics. Makes me feel like I am back in umm..grammar school.<BR/><BR/>You've been tagged!<BR/><BR/>http://frumhouse.blogspot.com/2007/06/eight-things-about-me-mizellies-meme.htmlfrumhousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02735783157413222489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-18271157860727667572007-06-23T23:30:00.000-04:002007-06-23T23:30:00.000-04:00I was the class mom this yr and I had to collect f...I was the class mom this yr and I had to collect for chanukah gifts and end of the year. Then I found out I had to buy everything for graduation and set up, but it ended up all fine, as you will hear in my next post....socialworker/frustrated momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10352262399235382201noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-83765574165932534112007-06-23T16:18:00.000-04:002007-06-23T16:18:00.000-04:00I have a hard time believing that someone never ha...I have a hard time believing that someone never has 20s. I would understand if you were talking about 100s or even 50s.<BR/><BR/>Presumably when she draws money from a cash machine, it doesn't come out in 1s.Leah Goodmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16546935038863589318noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-44454699996195824912007-06-22T10:10:00.000-04:002007-06-22T10:10:00.000-04:00I'm with you. I think a good gift is giving somet...I'm with you. <BR/><BR/>I think a good gift is giving something that a person really wants, but probably would not buy for herself. I'm guessing that for this teachers, unexpected cash goes to straight the grocery store or is used to pay a utility bill. <BR/><BR/>Cash is practical and I'm sure is much appreciated, but so are small luxuries, especially if you were not counting on a certain amount of money to begin with.<BR/><BR/>Even struggling people need small treats. Assuming she likes flowers, the gift could have been a real pick me up.<BR/><BR/>But there is probably no point arguing with the Queen Bee. I've found that the Queen Bees that I know just don't hear the voices of other people.Orthonomicshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07892074485262548496noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-73322792810064560952007-06-22T08:26:00.000-04:002007-06-22T08:26:00.000-04:00Jack - I hear you. I saw early on with this mom th...Jack - I hear you. I saw early on with this mom that there was no headway, and I'm not much of a fighter.<BR/><BR/>Ezzie, MiI - Your points combine what I was thinking. My aim was to avoid having an enormous stack of singles in the envelopes. The end of year gifts contained twenties and below. <BR/><BR/>When cash is the gift, and the bills are a wad of singles, at best, this comes across like not much effort or care was taken. At worst, this may be interpreted as some kind of sympathy gesture. <BR/><BR/>It reminds me of when a close family friend who struggles a lot financially was able to buy a very nice quality coat. She felt great about her one-time splurge until she got a lot of questioning stares from people who "knew her situation". (This was by no means part of a chronic overspending problem).<BR/><BR/>While the charitable behavior in our communities is often so admirable, it should not give people a feeling of authority to dictate what someone ought to have or deserves, even under the guise of pity or concern.RaggedyMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01022064984702182705noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-61927823211406552682007-06-22T05:04:00.000-04:002007-06-22T05:04:00.000-04:00Ezzie, would $20 bills be a problem? What about $1...Ezzie, would $20 bills be a problem? What about $10s? Ones are insulting.mother in israelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13715046177293916034noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-11068966114408504382007-06-22T02:04:00.000-04:002007-06-22T02:04:00.000-04:00I would basically agree with you, but I can give a...I would basically agree with you, but I can give a similar but different reason to go with the Queen Bee this one time... (ducks)<BR/><BR/>You've made it clear that this assistant isn't doing so well financially. She might feel uncomfortable carrying around larger bills than normal suddenly, particularly to stores where she often shops and pays in smaller bills. A familiar cashier may give her looks, etc., particularly if a store 'helps her out' on occasion.Ezziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12494592434522239195noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36217996.post-45223609595236773602007-06-21T23:03:00.000-04:002007-06-21T23:03:00.000-04:00Queen Bee Mom Sadly they exist at every school. Th...<I>Queen Bee Mom </I><BR/><BR/>Sadly they exist at every school. They irk me, but than again I am the guy who usually tells them they are out of line.Jack Steinerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16625864271071630940noreply@blogger.com